UPDATED: 09.25.23
If you are visiting a sex workers website, I guess you are looking for answers or a fight. Maybe both. I assume you found credit card charges or read some messages you weren't intended to read.
Before you put on your boxing, gloves, take a moment and hear me out. You might be surprised to hear what I have to say.
First off none of my clients choose to call on me without LOTS of reluctance. By calling me instead of the flirty girl at work or that friend of yours that sleeps with everyone's husband, he wants to avoid hurting you.
Despite what you think and feel right now calling me doesn't mean his feelings have changed. His love for you hasn't changed. He isn't sex-crazed and seeking to bed as many women as possible.
He didn't call me because you aren't pretty or sexy enough, and HE ISNT HOPING TO REPLACE YOU.
Your spouse doesn't wish to spend time with me. He would rather spend time with you. For whatever reason, it's none of my business, but life has impeded the intimacy that brought the two of you together.
Think for a moment how many times you have told him no in the past month, six months, how about year ? Every no hurts and after a while he begins to féel rejected. Being rejected by your spouse hurts.
If you did say yes was it an enthusiastic yes? I don't mean over the top I just mean were you actually interested? How often do you initiate sex? Are there a bunch of rules surrounding your encounters?
Guys aren't like women. We enjoy sex… but we don't have to have it.
We don't have to fight the urge to masturbate several times a day because it has been months since our man went downtown. If we are in the mood 90 percent of the time all we have to do is drop a hint or two and the man in our life is happy to help us out.
Does your husband have that luxury? Do you? What's the difference?
What you don't understand is that despite what that cruel little voice in all of our heads see in the mirror your husband still finds you beautiful, and he wants to be intimate with you..
Your husband thinks you are beautiful inside and out. At least he did when he asked you to marry him. Now if you've been withholding sex for the past...only you know how long, he might have developed some serious resentments.
Even still most still just want you and your attention. Not mine or me.
How do I know? He tells me…to the point I begin to be self-conscious myself because there's no way I can measure up.
No, I am not interested in turning him away from you. Quite the opposite, as a matter of fact. Unlike a girlfriend, if he calls me the next day I'll block him.
My service is like getting a massage. There's a soreness and my job is to offer some relief. There's no way I could ever cure this anguish. That is something only you could do. After being shot down over and over, your partner wonders why their life partner no longer desires them.
Why is the woman that he chose above all others no longer laughs at his stupid jokes or kisses him goodnight.
After a while, he becomes resentful. That resentment starts festering, and he starts to rationalize stepping out of the relationship to soothe this ache that he no longer can rub away himself.
A woman…preferably you, is required. If that isn't an option, he starts to look elsewhere.
You are here, so you are one of the lucky ones. You married a man smart enough to know that affairs have the potential to destroy your marriage at much higher odds.
Girlfriends wish to dethrone wives. All of them do. The problem is that your companion isn't going anywhere. Remember, he chooses you.
Now the girlfriend gets upset, when that happens, she will make sure that his wife finds out, so he will hurt the way she does.
Now everyone's life is upside-down and the two of you are even less likely to be intimate.
The vicious cycle commences and there's no end in sight. By hiring a professional, he ensures you won't be the unknowing enemy of some lover he would rather not have.
Escorts are paid for a set amount of time and when that moment is over she says goodbye not concerned about whether she ever encounters him again.
She can take it or leave it.
She prefers not to sit on your throne…at the most, she hopes she can relieve some animosity your spouse has for you and he can come home and be present without a festering bitterness that has developed.
Hopefully, he can love and enjoy all the wonderful things he cherishes about you. Hopefully, it takes some pressure off you.
Now you can hate me, and call me all the terrible names you believe fit so well, but please, if you love your husband and want your relationship to be successful, then kindly say yes.
Say yes to blow jobs, to him, performing oral on you. If you don't climax, don't let him stop.
Even if it takes an hour. He will treasure every second. Don't be shy…this is the man who chose you out of every other woman on earth to be his wife. You are perfect.
If he isn't doing something right, tell him. He will welcome your input, and he will do what you ask of him.
If he is an asshole and you still don't want to leave then you need to have sex with him. If you are going to stay then you should be willing to play. That's just how it is. It's wrong to decide for another person that their sex life is over. If you stay and continue to withhold sex (love) from him then understand he might decide he is going to find the release he needs with me.
If you're lucky that is.